Manipulation is getting what you want by ignoring or harming the desires of others.
Manipulators use charm, persuasion, coaxing, trickery and misdirection.
The underlying idea is, “I have to fool people to make them give me what I want.”
Control is forcing events and people into your way of doing things.
Control is the great mask of insecurity.
People who use this behavior are deathly afraid of letting others be who they are, so the controller is constantly making demands that keep others off balance.
The underyling idea is, “If they keep paying attention to me, they won’t run away.”
Go to the Source
The Book of Secrets, by Deepak Chopra