Unless you want children – which can also be mechanical – a person can live without meaningful or loving sex. But, who wants to? While there have been many theorists working in the field, such as Masters and Johnson, Helen Singer Kaplan, John Bancroft and John Gottman, the core of erotic intimacy comes down to combining trust with experience and excitement. It’s about knowing yourself (and your partner), truly accepting, feeling safe, and then letting go – like a child at play.
